Rewrite the Past. Manifest the Future.
Do you have some memory from your past that is still influencing you?
Does something that happened years and years ago still upset you?
Do you know that you can rewrite your memories?
That’s right. You can rewrite your memories. Just because something bothered you 10, 20, or 30 years ago doesn’t mean you have to still be bothered by it. What you focus on is up to you. This means that you can change your focus.
There are two parts to a memory: the thing that happened and your feeling about what happened.
When you “saw” what happened, the event was placed in a folder in your head to help you make sense of it. The folder contains similar events. It doesn’t matter if the event is tied to a belief you have, something similar that happened to you, or something that you imagined, your mind is looking for patterns so it knows what to do.
Add on top of that your interpretation of what you think you saw. I noticed this a lot while raising my kids. I saw an event as one way. Then during the retelling, the kids would have an entirely different viewpoint. We were all there, saw the same thing, but interpreted it differently.
When you “feel” what happened, your whole body is involved in your reaction. This feeling gets a hook in you and it can seem that it will never let you go. That feeling is there to remind you to do or not to do that thing again. Ultimately, the feeling is to keep you safe – or so your body thinks. It’s all about survival. Your body thinks that you survived that event and can do it again if only you remember the feeling, because that feeling will keep you on track.
You can rewrite the thing that happened or the emotion. You can even rewrite it all if you choose. Take the good from what you remember, and focus on that. Then find a better way of feeling about it.
Real Life Example:
While clearing energy the other day, I ran across a memory from when I was in high school. It was many years ago and it was still affecting me. It was time to rewrite it.
I was clearing about people having expectations of me. Others’ expectations of me are fine to acknowledge, but I’m not so sure they should be controlling my life.
It was a Saturday in January, during my junior year of high school, at a gymnastic meet. I was exhausted and shared this with my dad. His response was, “Your team is depending on you. Find the strength to do it anyway.”
While he was technically correct, I heard, “Business first. Ignore yourself. What you want isn’t important.” You’d have to understand that in my upbringing business was first. It’s what we talked about at the dinner table. And as a girl (an emotional one at that), my dad was always trying to shut down my tears. He was doing the best he could, and he just wasn’t plugged into the emotions like I was.
So, what did I truly want to hear? Even though I loved gymnastics, I wanted an acknowledgement that it was ok to feel the way I felt in that moment. The end result would be the same. I’d still compete and do very well.
So, again, what did I want to hear? After playing around with a few sentences, I replayed the scene in my head and pretended that I was hearing exactly what I wanted to hear. I found the wording that felt like my teenage self could just relax into.
“I love you.
I’ve got your back.
You can do it.
I believe in you.”
The next step is to focus on the new feeling (the way I feel when I “hear” my dad say the four sentences.) Then to shift my focus to how I used to feel. Go back and forth between the two feelings. The new feeling is a higher vibration and feels better. It will become more powerful the more I focus on it. The old feeling will have less of an impact as it’s acknowledged and replaced. It’s important to go back and forth between the two feelings.
The Process of Rewriting
You can rewrite your memories. It takes a bit of practice and a willingness to have it be different than how it “really” happened.
Old Memory. Acknowledge that you have a memory that no longer works for you.
Ask. What would you have liked to hear or happen?
Edit. Choose what you would like to hear or have happened. Play with the wording or picture until you have it exactly as you’d like.
Balance. Shift your focus between the new and old until you feel settled.
Rerun. Imagine the old memory keeping your focus on the new interpretation.
Rewriting doesn’t mean that the event didn’t happen. However, it is a great way to let go of the emotional tag. It can just be something that happened. If you no longer have the button to push, then others (or yourself) can no longer push it. The emotional tag or button isn’t there to be pushed.
Why let the past live in the present? It’s already done. Rewrite the past to fit the present that you choose and the future you are going toward.
